ARE YOU

– feeling overwhelmed by emotions?

– waking up feeling tired as the night before, aching all over your body and angry that you have to start all over again?

– having thoughts and behavior that prevent you from achieving your goals and feeling happy?

– perceiving you have lost a sense of purpose and direction?

– feeling that you have lost the joy and lightness in life that you used to have?

– feeling insecure and unable to enjoy your relationships, your job or yourself?

ARE YOU LOOKING FOR

– A sense of purpose in life

– Better relationships

– A change that lasts

– Finding an inner balance

– Freedom from ineffective patterns

– Help for a struggling family member or a distressed couple situation

CONSIDER COUNSELING

It’s an opportunity to explore, discover and clarify ways you can live a more satisfying life. It’s a chance to reach your goals through meaningful, well-informed choices. Contact me for a consultation, I’ll be happy to help! I am available in Utrecht and on Skype – also in the late afternoon/evening. Please find my email address and my phone number at the bottom of this page.

What I can offer

As licensed psychologist, I offer short-term and open-ended counseling to adults struggling with a variety of emotional distress and in need of personal growth. My approach is integrating models such as transactional analysis, psychodynamic, mindfulness and cognitive-behavioral to help the individual growing awareness of unhealthy patterns and finding new constructive strategies to live a more satisfying life. My expertise areas are chronic stress, anxiety, communication difficulties, mood swings/depression, low self-esteem, relationship difficulties, adjustment difficulties, burnout and challenges throughout your studies. You can read more on the counseling page

Which are the common reasons to see a counselor?

 

When you feel overwhelmed with anxiety

One-in-ten adults have a tough time dealing with anxiety every single day. They struggle finding their own personal way out to finally enjoy themselves, others and life again. It is as if anxiety is in control and we have no power over things happening to us. There are techniques to use anxiety in our favor, so that we can ultimately fain control over it. If you’d like to know more about anxiety, about my approach and try some strategies, click on “read more”.

When you feel depressed and/or your mood swings are getting difficult to manage

“Life is a pain. What’s the point anyway? I’ll never be happy” Do any of these thoughts sound familiar? The occasional case of the blues is perfectly normal and it happens to everybody, but that doesn’t make dealing with it any easier. If you allow them to, negative thoughts can potentially lead to serious depression. That’s why it’s important to take action early. If you’d like to read more about it, the way I work with my clients to overcome these feelings and go through some suggestions, click on “read more“.

When you fear your relationship is at risk

Which couple doesn’t go through some bumps from time to time? We are dynamic individuals, it’s never easy to manage the changes within the couple and find a new balance over and over again. All relationships problems, also those not strictly related to the couple, origin from poor communication and dysfunctional dynamics. If you’d like to know more about it, read about what I can offer and learn some strategies, click on “read more”.

When you feel that stress got the best of you

Being in control of your life and having a clear idea of where we are heading to are some of the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life. Nevertheless, when stress hits us, we can’t think straight and end up taking bad decisions and regretting our behaviors. There are although very effective techniques to bounce back from stress and become a resilient person. If you’d like to go through some suggestions about overcoming the risk of burnout, click on “read more“.

When insecurity is impacting important areas in your life

Is insecurity always chasing you? Is it getting in the way all the time while building relationships, achieving your dreams and trying to be satisfied with your life? Everyone has their own secret insecurities. When you are insecure you look at yourself from the perspective of someone else, you project the ideas about yourself to somebody else, and judge yourself unfairly according to this distorted view. If you’d like to know more about this topic, how I work with my clients to help them building a higher self-esteem and try few strategies, click on “read more“.

When you have a difficult time adjusting to a new country

Otherwise named “culture-shock”. Everybody who has had the experience of living away from their country has heard of it. They might have asked themselves what it exactly means. Culture shock can be described as the feelings one experiences after leaving their familiar, home culture to live in a different cultural or social environment. If you’d like to know more about it and go through some suggestions, click on “read more“.

More topics on this website

Feeling like a fraud. Coping with the impostor syndrome

Have you ever felt like a fake, or that you don’t really deserve what you have achieved? “Everyone knows that I am a fake, that I really don’t deserve what I’ve achieved.” This is the characteristic automatic thought of someone experiencing the impostor syndrome, which is the attribution of your success to other factors, such as luck, thus discounting your own abilities. Learn about the impostor syndrome and some ways to handle it “read more“.

Social anxiety: when the elephant in the room is staring at you

Anxiety is a state of mental/physical tension or fear that affects millions of people and can have a big impact on your quality of life. Although anxiety feels like it can happen instantly, it is in fact the culmination of thoughts and emotions that have already been occurring subconsciously for a longer time. This article explores social anxiety and what you can do about it “read more“.

Why setting goals will help you solve your problems

One-in-ten adults have a tough time dealing with anxiety every single day. They struggle finding their own personal way out to finally enjoy themselves, others and life again. It is as if anxiety is in control and we have no power over things happening to us. There are techniques to use anxiety in our favor, so that we can ultimately fain control over it. If you’d like to know more about anxiety, about my approach and try some strategies, click on “read more”.

Why is it so important to clarify your values to bounce back from stress

A value is a chosen path, a chosen direction that helps us to orient our behaviors. Think of values as a compass, allowing us to search and reach for our goals and who we are, even when it looks like we got lost. A value is a decision about what is most important in our life, what counts the most, that decision that allows us to be the person we want to be. Having clear values in life ultimately helps minimize stress, see things clearly during stressful situations and staying committed to the person we really are. Values, decisions and consequent behaviors need to be aligned in order to provide us with that sort of peace of mind we are seeking for. “read more“.

Attention training: how to save your relationships

There are people who are more prone to focusing exclusively on the negative aspects of their life and environment, neglecting the positives. This ultimately has an impact on how you feel, what you get out of life and how you behave. When we only see others and situations through a negative lens, we develop a sort of tunnel vision where we confirm the negative aspects and neglect to consider a person or situation in their entirety. This is called negative confirmation bias. Failing to focus on the positive can also prevent a person from taking action, being open to change, or connecting to others and their values.“read more”.

Lost in the couple: the danger of symbiotic relationships

A very common pitfall for couples is living as if they are one, namely, living in symbiosis. Symbiosis is a synonym for “being dependent on one another”. During the first period of a romantic relationship partners feel naturally symbiotic, it’s reassuring to think alike, feel alike, not need words to understand each other, and to feel like we finally found each other. This idyllic romance has one massive disadvantage though.. “read more”.

How psychological games can sabotage your relationship

Have you ever had the impression that the arguments with your partner seem to inevitably end in the same unproductive way? Have you ever wondered how arguments start and why they seem to follow the same pattern This may be because we have the tendency to take.. read more.

Intercultural communication: the importance of being assertive

Relocating to a new country and encountering new communication styles can cause confusion and disorientation. With time, these differences become increasingly noticeable, as do differing behaviors and values. Amid this cultural confusion, many people tend to develop difficulties communicating, either at work, or with family, friends and partners, be they from a different culture, or your own. Some people may also feel misunderstood, insecure or angry when relating to others.. “read more”.

Job hunting and the procrastination game

Considering the economic climate of the last few years, I believe that motivation is one of the most important skills you can develop in order to achieve your goals. It’s easy to lose your path and connection with the person you want to be when facing such a fickle job market. The job application allergy..”read more